The role of father to son in the family is just on the subject of communication in addition to the financial side. This means that the father could build a relationship with the child in various forms of communication that occurs in accordance with the child's age.
In building the emotional intelligence of children, the role of the father is also highly desirable. Communication is established properly can be beneficial to the child.
Closer to the children can be done in several ways such as:
- Spend enough time for family
- Playing with children
- Provide exemplary wisely
- Admit mistakes, apologize and thank the children
- Be encouraging and supporting children
- Being a good listener if the child is to express the problem
- Avoid abusive actions that harm children's physical and psychological
- Invites children to exercise and sightseeing
- Know who your child's friends
- Educating Children Through Games and FAQ
Dad is an integral part of the family. The family is not only the concern of the mother, while the father is a living affair. Rigid division of roles between the father and mother are not adequate and not a day longer. Neither father nor mother, all of them undergo the multi-role in the family.
There are 4 father's role in the family as revealed by Najeela Shihab. That role is:
1. Player (playmates)
As a player, my father became a playmate for their children. The game makes the child feel comfortable and be a means of establishing a bond. The more often Dad playing with the child, usually the child's mental quality.
2. Teacher (as educators and caregivers)
A good father should also be able to act as a teacher. Master it means a source of knowledge for children. Father important role as a teacher is not only to transfer knowledge, but also to nurture children's curiosity.
The areas that are usually controlled by the father and mother is better than a lesson ABCD (Ally / ally, Boundaries / limit, Challenge / challenges, Dreams / dream).
3. Protector (protective)
Every Father must have an instinct to protect her child from birth. But the father functions as protector not only that. Rather, the important thing is to teach children to protect themselves because their parents could not be with them every time.
As a patron, my father needs to be a Spy, in the sense of getting to know the children's world: to know what his favorite, what he hated, his close friends, and the world that occupied child. The more the world knows the child's father, the easier it is to establish communication and connection with them. Conversely, the Father did not know and a stranger to the world that are liked children, the farther hubuan Father-Son.
4. Partners (partners)
As a partner, not a support function Dad Mother in child care, but equal partners. That is, the father has the right and responsibility of the same with Mom.
As a partner, my father must not only expect and rely on the mother, but also actively involved. My father also has the right to play with the children, not only serves as a "bad cop" to scare children.
Because Mom and Dad are a partner, the household rules also need to be agreed upon and should not be opposed. Mom and Dad need to have the same sound. If he says no, she also said the same. And vice versa.
The presence of the father in a child's life, it has great meaning at all. This is because the father took a different role with the mother in a child's life:
1. The mother's love is unconditional while Love Dad more qualitative and attached to the performance of children
2. Mother worried about how the baby could survive while Dad thinks of how his son can face the future
3. Mother shortly discipline children after time while Dad mendisplin children with regulations
4. From the mother, the children learn in terms of his emotions while the father, the child learns to live in the community
5. My mother gave her children to be careful of this and that in the play while Dad would encourage children to dare to try something new.
So, from a qualitative otherness between what the mother and father of the child mentioned above, shows how important the presence of the father in the midst of her. The book "Five Key Habits of Smart Dads" shows the research conducted on children who grew up without a father's role in life tend to have some psychological deficiencies such as:
1. Trust yourself low
2. Not having a good social care
3. It is difficult to adapt to certain circumstances
4. The risk is higher for the development of psycho-sexual problems.
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